Freedom in the Unfollow Button

Years ago I got my toes stepped on after an old friend unfollowed me across the board after I posted pictures of my husband and me getting some anniversary tattoos together. She clearly did not approve of our adventure and let it be known with her unfollow. I was hurt. She was an old friend and I like her. I wanted her approval with her ‘follow.’ This past year I have learned what she may have already known. There is great freedom in the unfollow button.

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This week I posted something on my Facebook page and someone hid all my posts, yet still follows my page. (Yes, I can see you. <insert evil laugh>) Why not unfollow my page if my posts are irrelevant to you? Since that first friend’s unfollow I have figured out following someone who is not helpful to me is where I hit the unfollow. Do it, friend. If you need to hide the Blues Clues post, you clearly have no idea how important Blues Clues is to our family. I grant ye permission to feel the freedom of the unfollow.

A few weeks ago I got off of Twitter. I cannot tell you how freeing it has been. I really tried to follow mostly Christian accounts … and Collective Soul. Don’t judge. I will follow them everywhere forever and continue to act like a middle-aged moron whenever I see anything about them. Moving on: Twitter. Even the Christians were crabby. It made me judgmental and crabby. When you are working on thankfulness Twitter is not the place to hang out. Delete. I think I am happier because of it. There is so much freedom in unfollowing Twitter all together.

You know the only person who says come and follow me? Yeah, you do. Jesus says it in several places. And while I think there are a few hilarious fake (duh, obviously) Jesus Twitter accounts, I don’t think following Him on Twitter is what he meant.

“Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.”

Matthew 4:19

“If you want to be perfect,” Jesus said to him, “go, sell your belongings, and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”

Matthew 19:21

“If anyone wants to follow after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.”

Matthew 16:24

I met one of my best friends on social media. She understands our life better than anyone because her family lives a very similar life. I couldn’t be more thankful for social media bringing me her friendship. I met another of my closest friends during the hardship of the hospital. We live far apart, and social media keeps us close. I am grateful for the connection it provides. Social media has been the best of its best for us. But, when it’s not, oooh, unfollow.

Dear old friend who unfollowed me years ago: you knew best. There is so much freedom in the unfollow button. And friends, you have my blessing to unfollow. I can tell you about foster care, adoption, special needs, so much about pediatric cancer and that dang old grief. I will give you some hilarious enneagram 9 memes and tell you what I am reading. However, I have no wisdom greater than what Christ gives us. There is freedom to follow only Christ and what he is telling you.

My all time favorite Collective Soul song: Collective Soul // How Do You Love

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